Young men giving up on marriage: ‘Women aren’t women anymore’

January 10, 2013

Fewer young men in the US want to get married than ever, while the desire for marriage is rising among young women, according to the Pew Research Center.

Pew recently found that the number of women 18-34 saying that having a successful marriage is one of the most important things rose from 28 percent to 37 percent since 1997. The number of young adult men saying the same thing dropped from 35 percent to 29 percent in the same time.

Pew’s findings have caught the attention of one US writer who maintains that feminism, deeply entrenched in every segment of the culture, has created an environment in which young men find it more beneficial to simply opt out of couple-dom entirely.

Suzanne Venker’s article, "The War on Men ", which appeared on the website of Fox News in late November, has become a lodestone for feminist writers who have attacked her position that the institution of marriage is threatened, not enhanced, by the supposed gains of the feminist movement over the last 50 years.

“Where have all the good (meaning marriageable) men gone?” is a question much talked about lately in the secular media, Venker says, but her answer, backed up by statistics, is not to the liking of mainstream commentators influenced by feminism.

She points out that for the first time in US history, the number of women in the workforce has surpassed the number of men, while more women than men are acquiring university degrees.

“The problem? This new phenomenon has changed the dance between men and women,” Venker wrote. With feminism pushing them out of their traditional role of breadwinner, protector and provider – and divorce laws increasingly creating a dangerously precarious financial prospect for the men cut loose from marriage – men are simply no longer finding any benefit in it.

As a writer and researcher into the trends of marriage and relationships, Venker said, she has “accidentally stumbled upon a subculture” of men who say “in no uncertain terms, that they’re never getting married.”

“When I ask them why, the answer is always the same: women aren’t women anymore.” Feminism, which teaches women to think of men as the enemy, has made women “angry” and “defensive, though often unknowingly.”

“Now the men have nowhere to go. It is precisely this dynamic – women good/men bad – that has destroyed the relationship between the sexes. Yet somehow, men are still to blame when love goes awry.”

“Men are tired,” Venker wrote. “Tired of being told there’s something fundamentally wrong with them. Tired of being told that if women aren’t happy, it’s men’s fault.”

Feminism and the sexual revolution have simply made marriage “obsolete” for women as a social and economic refuge, but this is a situation that should not be celebrated by feminists, Venker says.

“It’s the women who lose. Not only are they saddled with the consequences of sex, by dismissing male nature they’re forever seeking a balanced life. The fact is, women need men’s linear career goals – they need men to pick up the slack at the office – in order to live the balanced life they seek.”

A cross section of research data from the Pew Research Center for the last months of 2012 shows the alarming trends for marriage and child-bearing in the US. One report published in mid-December said that the latest census data showed “barely half” of all adults in the United States are currently married, a “record low”. Since 1960, the number of married adults has decreased from 72 percent to 51 today and the number of new marriages in the U.S. declined by five percent between 2009 and 2010.

Moreover, the median age at first marriage continues to rise with women getting married the first time at 26.5 years and men at 28.7. The declines in marriage are “most dramatic” among young adults. Just 20 percent of those aged 18 to 29 are married, compared with 59 percent in 1960.

“If current trends continue, the share of adults who are currently married will drop to below half within a few years,” the report said.

Moreover, the link between marriage and childrearing has become disconnected in the minds of the so-called Millennial generation, those between 18 and 29. While 52 percent of Millennials say being a good parent is “one of the most important things” in life, just 30 per cent say the same about having a successful marriage, an attitudinal survey found.

The gap, of 22 percentage points, between the value Millennials place on parenthood over marriage, was just 7 points in 1997. The research found that Millennials, many of whom are the children of divorce and single-parenthood themselves, are also less likely than their elders to say that a child needs both a father and mother at home, that single parenthood and unmarried couple parenthood are bad for society.

Hilary White


15 января 2013 г.

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VeryTrue 7 мая 2015, 15:00
Well certainly Not these days, that is for sure.
mike10 февраля 2015, 08:00
Feminists are poison. You have equality but you won't accept it you want superiority and that quality in people I do distrust because Hitler and Stalin both had that quality too. I don't hate women I hate feminists I want to make that abundantly clear before you start spouting your insipidous hate towards me
cream26 сентября 2014, 15:00
As long as the laws favor women things will only get worst.
David Champ23 августа 2014, 09:00
I live in prince William county in Virginia the woman here are hostile disrespectful and mean I see them I n the stores and the malls they walk around with their noses in the air and they wont even look at you twice guys if you want to marry don't come here to Virginia the woman here are snotty and stuck up. I married a lady from argintina two years ago she loves me and treats me like a man woman are not finding men and ill tell you why its not the result of men not hating woman its the resentment brought on by 60 years of brainwashing and bullying by the feminist dominated teachers unions and their male running dogs
dekloesel@gmail.com17 апреля 2014, 20:00
Men are tired? Seriously??! What's it been, a few decades? Women have been scrutinized and subjected to significantly worse bullshit for hundreds of years. Women are tired of men blaming women because men don't want to get with the times and accept change. Men and women should be treated equal. Yes that changes relationship dynamics BECAUSE these so-called 'desirable' dynamics were based on the man being superior and the female catering to his whims. So sorry men that you miss this. So sorry that you feel entitled to this when you actually don't. Stop bitching and get with the times.
AB22 марта 2013, 02:00
Sabrina - your comments alone show how true the article is - they are angry and defensive, and you don't seem to know it. "Feminism, which teaches women to think of men as the enemy, has made women “angry” and “defensive, though often unknowingly.”"
Sabrina24 января 2013, 04:00
This article is full of alarmist anti-woman propoganda, and it actually qoted FOX news! Seriously? That takes down the credibility of this article by at least 10% If there is a decline in marriage (and I sort of doubt it because the wedding industry remains a multi-BILLION dollar industry in the USA alone), I say much has to do with the fact that too many of the young men of today are afraid of commitment and are "machos" chauvenists who want to keep women down. Some men love to accuse women of hating them, but the reality is that they hate and distrust women. Those specific men are just as much to blame as the women whom they are blaming. Seems to me some men are just as angry and and mistrustful of women as vice versa. Instead of entering a relationship where both should be 'submitting to each other as it says in Ephesians 5:21, they'd rather be selfish playboys out there sleeping around, or still live at home with their parents and never have to take on adult responsibilities. It's better not to marry at all than marry the wrong person...and some of those of the men in this article with their sexist and rude comments are decidedly the wrong kinds of men to marry!
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